I take what I can from parenting books, but don’t let theory get me down. I know what is best for my children, but that doesn’t mean I never consider another parents point of view. I love to hear how other parents raise their children, which is why I am sharing my parenting style with you.
Every parent has a different parenting ‘style’ because every parent, child, family and life situation is different. ‘There is no perfect’ way. Figuring out what works for me, my children, family, and situation is an ever changing journey. Sometimes it is hard and sometimes I smile inwardly at how smooth everything is flowing.
I will never say that my way is the best way for you. It is best for me and my family in our situation.
Children grow, life and death happen, taste and points a view change. We learn with every expiriance, we change as we grow, we read, we make mistakes, we are humans.
I do not define myself as only mother.
I am a mother for three little people in this world and one inside of me. I am wife for one person, my husband. I am daughter to two parents and two step-parents. I am sister to four siblings, a sister and 3 step-bothers. I am cousin, niece and granddaughter to a handful of family members. I am a friend to many and an aquaintance to many more people.
But I am much more…
I am a writer when I write, a painter, a decorater, a cleaning lady, a reader, a singer, a teacher, a dancer, a cook, a swimmer, a drawer, a patient, a nurse, a researcher, a photographer, a philosopher, a thinker, a protester, a problem solver, an organizer, a perfectionist trying not to be one, a hair dresser, a masseuse, a native and a foreigner.
But this does not define my soul…I am Love
All of the things that I mentioned above can change in an instant. If people pass away then I cannot define myself in relation to them any longer. If I get sick and am restricted then I can no longer define myself by the things that I do. If I die, how will I be remembered and what part of me continues into the afterlife… Only how much I loved.
So love is the key to my being. And it is therefore the source of all my action. And consequently my parenting.
Was it always this way? No. I didn’t understand the meaning of love. I didn’t understand that we all are love, every single person on this earth. Now that I do it has changed the way that see myself and evidently the way that I see others. I love every person. I am united to all people through the love that we are. We were born of the Creator who is love in its purest form.
Once I began to truly love myself, loving others became natural. How can I decide who is worthy of love? Aren’t we all siblings? Who am I to say who is worthy and who is not? We are all worthy. If there was a criteria to the worthiness of love then we would all fail because we are all human. But there is no criteria. We are love. Whether we know it or not we are brothers and sisters, born of Love into love and return as love.
That being said, you now know the bases of my parenting and what to expect in this blog.
- Parenting is a journey that never ends.
- There is no perfect parenting.
- The most important thing I tell my children is ‘’I love you!’’
- The most important thing I give my children is ‘’my time’’. It is not the quantity rather the quality that counts.
- The most important thing I show my children is that I love myself. So that they can learn by example to love themselves.
Our most important rules
- Use your hand and feet for good. (No hitting, kicking ect.)
- Use your words wisely. Speak positively about others. (No name calling)
- All emotions are accepted. (not all actions)
- Speak softly with one another. (no yelling)
Now I invite you to share: What drives your parenting? What are the most inportant rules in your family?
And of course I always love reading and replying to your comments. Thank your for spending this time with me. Rebekah Butterfly
Let’s get naturaly happy together!